Relationship & Communication Mastery System

My partner and I keep having the same argument over and over. It usually starts with something small but escalates quickly. We both end up saying hurtful things and then not talking for days. How do we break this cycle?

**Breaking the Repetitive Conflict Cycle:** You're experiencing what researchers call a "negative interaction cycle." Here's how to interrupt it: **Step 1: Map the Pattern** The surface issue isn't the real issue. Underneath: - What do you feel when the conflict starts? (hurt, dismissed, controlled?) - What do you typically do? (attack, withdraw, defend?) - What does your partner do in response? **Step 2: The Repair Conversation** Outside of conflict, say: "I notice we keep having this same fight. I don't want to hurt you, and I know you don't want to hurt me. Can we figure out what's really happening?" **Step 3: Name the Deeper Need** Often the cycle is about: - "I need to feel heard" - "I need to feel respected" - "I need to feel like a priority" Address the need, not just the topic.